Young old

I’m not despondent. I’m not negative. But… growing old generally sucks. Yes, I know there are upsides. I am aware of the many wonderful things old or elderly people say about growing old. I am one. I also espouse some similar views. They are not untrue. They are also not wholly correct. Not for all […]

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Half-siblings

My mum has been chattier of late. Sharing stories with sister number 3 and me. Some people, some events I was already familiar with. Some not. I knew my mum is the first born in the family of three girls. Her parents, my grandparents, were Tulasi and Sandrakasan. I also knew that my grandmother was […]

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Worry pattern

My worry pattern has changed in recent years. Now, I seem to worry more about people I care for, and situations and events I cannot control or have no influence over. The latter makes little sense but what to do. I am on a constant worry mode with regards to my mum. An unusually high […]

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Different things

My husband and I had a nice send off after our holiday at the Tanjong Jara resort last week. Some staff gathered to wave us goodbye and wish us a safe journey home. I chatted with Chef Ann while my husband walked over to collect our car. Tanjong Jara’s designated parking area is situated close […]

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Birthdays are fun

It’s my husband’s birthday today. We are celebrating the special day at Tanjung Jara resort. One of our top five favourite places for special occasions. Sitting on a verandah in a chalet built over a small river with fish and monitor lizards. Not on a balcony on the 30th floor of a condominium block. Looking […]

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Mum and baby care

My mum is a library of stories. She has plenty to share. Some long. Some disjointed. Some snippets. Mostly, I am happy to listen to her narrate the stories. And, many a times, I have thought, ‘I didn’t know that.’  Out of the blue (she does it quite often these days), my mum spoke about […]

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Ordering food

I use food delivery platforms. Mainly to order vegetarian meals for my mum. Convenient, yes. But, not always straightforward. Like most things, I guess. My mum is the end user. I place the orders. She knows nothing about ordering online via a mobile phone or computer. She doesn’t want to know. She’s never been one […]

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Turning 89

My mum turns 89 tomorrow. A milestone, and an achievement. Especially considering the tough year the old girl has had. Gratefully, through most of it, she has managed to remain curious, chatty, and alert. Yay. I like birthdays. Cake or cakes, presents, balloons, decorations. Fuss and focus on number 1. What’s there not to like? […]

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Living with yourself

‘Living with yourself’ is an eight-episode TV show on Netflix. I remember watching a bit of the first episode and giving up on it quite quickly. I chose it only because of Paul Rudd. I liked him in ‘Friends’ and then as ‘Ant-Man.’ To me, he is an unassuming, likeable hero. Not quite a Chris […]

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5-2 week

I’ve had a 5-2 week for the last seven weeks. 5N/5D at my mum’s and 2N/2D with my husband. Sounds like a holiday or travel package. Not quite. I live with my mum at her condo 5N/5D. My week with her starts on Sunday at 9pm and ends on Friday at 9pm. Brothers number 1 […]

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